Verse 11: Caretaker of His Heart

I like how Proverbs 31 is written with 2 parts in each verse. This 2-part format helps in remembering the verses as well as understanding them without any confusion.

Verse 11 part one says - The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her...

Trust seems to be such a cheap concept these days, not only in the secular world, but sadly even among God's own. The rate of divorces is only going higher each year. Marriage is no longer a blessed union, but a contractual agreement that last only as long as it is viable for the couple to stay together. The term "commitment" has lost the sense of "till death do us part", because it has changed to "for as long as we want to". In the excitement of getting married and losing one's sanity in the preparation of THE perfect wedding, many do not truly ponder upon the significance of the wedding vow.

The Wedding Vow - I remember when we exchanged out vows. I was so focused on not getting my tongue twisted, that it felt like I did not put any real feelings when I repeated after our Pastor. Don't get me wrong, I know what I promised and I definitely meant it. It's just... well... at that moment.... maybe I'm being too critical of myself, especially being a Drama major and all. I've got to give myself a break and not see it as the "most important performance" of my life. And no, I don't mean performance as pretending, but as in a presentation of an authentic emotion. woah woah woah... I'm going to pull myself back, if not you are going to be subjected to my drama studies dribble. This is not meant to be a 300 page dissertation on performance.

Back to the VOW, yes... in capital letters, because it's oh so serious and important. It should not be something we decide to say in the most fashionable manner, but words that have to be deeply considered, understood and accepted before we sign on the dotted line so to speak. It is an unbreakable contract not only between a man and woman, but between them and God as well. You may be able to divorce each other in the eyes of the worldly law, BUT do you dare divorce God as well?

Pause and think about that.

What is a divorce, but the breaking of a commitment. And if you break a commitment with your spouse (save for reasons of fornication and desertion as stated in the bible), then truly you are breaking your commitment with God as well.

Trust should be the most valuable gift you can give to your husband, just as he should assure you of his faithfulness. Once we decide to join in Holy Matrimony, we are in fact giving... no... surrendering, our hearts and our all to each other. Verse 11 is not simply for husbands to trust their wives, but for wives to trust their husbands too. If you have been given the task of protecting and caring for a priceless object, you will most certainly be giving your 100% in fulfilling that task. Even more so we should be dedicated in being caretakers of our husbands' (and wives') hearts.