Verse 12: Why he will trust you

Verse 12a reads "She will do him good, and not evil..."

Well, if a wife wills to do her husband evil, she should not marry him in the first place. Unless she is a black widow who finds pleasure in torturing others, then again, that would be a totally different thing. Ladies, I am not talking about the mentally troubled here. I am examining myself and at the same time, thinking about all the wives out there. Why did we agree to be bound in marriage with our husbands? To plot evil? I sincerely hope not!

The "will do" in this part of the verse shows a conscious commitment to do what is good and beneficial for her husband. The verse does not say "she does" as in actions already performed, but "will do" meaning a wife will not only do but plan to do all that is good. With this assurance from his wife, will and can a husband not trust her? Of course, I see this being applied to husbands as well. How could they not plan to only do good to their wives? After all, husbands have a high calling t0 love their wives as their own flesh, as Christ loves us.

This is a key to a Godly marriage - that spouses are fully committed to do only good and not evil to each other. It is not an easy task for sinners even if we are born again. Our sinful nature will find ways to surface, and only by the grace of God we have His word and Spirit to help us resist the temptation to seek pleasures in evil deeds.

Think about this: This passage on a virtuous woman is not only written for ladies, but for the men as well. Women seek to become virtuous women, and men seek to find a virtuous woman. See how important this verse is? A man will seek a woman that will do him good. Proverbs 18:22 says "Whoso findeth a wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the Lord." A Good Thing! We are to be "a good thing" for our husband because it pleases the Lord. We do not do it for ourselves, or even for our husbands. We do it because it is to God's glory that we do so. By being committed to only doing good, we are really saying that we want what is best from God for our husbands.

This is a indeed a good reminder for myself. It helps me to place my priority right. That what I do should not merely be to receive some form of affirmation and appreciation from my husband. it is much more than that. I should strive to receive affirmation from God, that my actions are acceptable to the Lord.

Guess I should spend some time now and think what good things I can do... and what evil habits I ought to break.... once again... Oh Lord help me! I truly need the guidance of the Holy Spirit to guide me through this... Well, with God all things are possible...